annanotbob's Diaryland Diary

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Ain't no answers in me

The current module in group is called 'Assertive Communication'. As we're all bonkers, they're taking it steady - in the first session we spent a lot of time trying to convince a couple of people that assertiveness is not synonymous with aggression, without much success although they stopped arguing about it. Anyway, in Monday's session, which I missed, they were discussing this proposed charter of rights:

  • The right to decide how to lead your life. This includes pursuing your own goals and dreams and establishing your own priorities.
  • The right to your own values, beliefs, opinions and emotions - and the right to respect yourself for them, no matter the opinion of others.
  • The right not to justify or explain your actions or feelings to others
  • The right to express yourself and say "No," "I don't know," "I don't understand," or even, "I don't care." You have the right to take the time you need to formulate your ideas before expressing them.
  • The right to ask for help or information without having negative feelings about your needs.
  • The right to change your mind, make mistakes and to sometimes act illogically with full understanding and acceptance of the consequences
  • The right to like yourself even though you are not perfect and to sometimes do less than you are capable of doing.
  • The right to have positive, satisfying relationships within which you feel free and comfortable and free to express your honesty - and to end them if they don't meet your needs
  • The right to change, enhance or develop your life.
  • I'm not sure about what it is that I'm not sure about with this. I think part of it is the whole language of 'rights', which has a big gap between how definite it sounds in words and how much of it there is out there in the world. I mean, the International Declaration of Human Rights is a magnificent document, but meanwhile half the world doesn't have access to clean water and the rest of us pour away gallons a day, so the rights don't actually mean jackshit.

    The list would feel better to me if it said something like 'Aspiring to the following things is not greedy or selfish and there's no need to feel guilt about wanting and trying to achieve any of it,' which clearly rolls off the tongue much better than 'You have the right to...'
    .

    .

    .

    .

    My writing was interrupted while I chatted with another person who needs some concentrated praying and love. Please people, for my daughter and for my friend, a healthy life with plenty of giggles, if you have a moment spare. I thank you.

    Off to bed, but here are some pics of my first day back at work. Millie-walking - that's a fucking job, isn't it?

    My favourite tree, just starting to turn:

    My second favourite tree, gone:

    (I took several pics, just holding the camera horizontally over the stump and managed to get my bloody toes in all of them)

    Millie on a monument:

    Sweet dreams xxx

    |

    10:28 p.m. - 10/09/2009

    -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    previous - next

    latest entry

    about me

    archives

    notes

    DiaryLand

    contact

    random entry

    Put another dime in the jukebox, baby - 16/09/2009

    I predict a riot - 14/09/2009

    The only way is up, baby - 14/09/2009

    Rooty tooty - 13/09/2009

    You can go your own way - 12/09/2009

    other diaries:

    anempath
    jim515
    ohell
    outer-jessie
    acaldwell
    vicunja
    manfromvenus
    tstough
    floodtide
    smartypants
    janeygodley
    enfinblue
    urbancadence
    boombasticat
    hilthethrill
    mzbee
    artgnome
    life-my-way
    fifidellabon
    ottodixless
    smashthegas
    boxx9000
    h2odragon
    la-the-sage
    stepfordtart
    Mel-is-dvash
    awittykitty
    geek-betty
    harri3tspy
    aliannmil
    teachin-usa

    Site Meter
    Powered by WebRing.
    Powered by WebRing.